Is The Big “D” Controlling Your Love Life?


Most people don’t end up living their Plan A Life. They wind up settling for Plan B, C or frequently Plan F & below. There are many reasons, i.e. excuses that go into this unfortunate reality. But one of the most significant is the desire to avoid the big “D,” Disappointment.

God forbid we try something and it doesn’t work out the way we hoped it would. We could run the risk of being embarrassed, getting our feelings hurt or worse, having to modify our approach & try again. Oh, the HORROR!couple kissing-2

This same desire to avoid disappointment thwarts many a God-ordained relationship, before it can even start. Daily, I see women struggling in this area, and singing the blues. My advice on this topic is simple. 1) Pray, 2) Listen, 3) Trust, 4) Act.


Having God on your side is the best ally you could ever want. Connecting with Him daily through prayer and supplication is essential to ensuring that your relationship with Him is solid. It seems to me that praying for your future husband and marriage is also obvious. And, so is praying for discernment over who you should entertain during a Courtship. However, I’m constantly surprised at the number of women of faith who don’t do this. Skipping this crucial step is most certainly a recipe for disappointment, among other things.



After you pray for guidance and wisdom, you must listen to the direction that God is leading you. That means that you must have some space and silence in your life.



I’ve already discussed the problem that many single women have with trusting men, in other articles. Unfortunately, this problem with trusting also spills over to NOT Trusting God. And, second guessing yourself when you know that God is leading you to start or stop something in your life. After you pray and receive Guidance, you MUST TRUST and Obey.



This is where you take action. Visit a different place of worship from your regular one. Wear some brighter, happier colors. Let the supportive people in your life know that you’re open to meeting new marriage-minded, single men. And, you’d appreciate introductions. Yes, I know this may require you moving out of your typical comfort zone. But, believe me when I say it WILL be worth it when you’re gazing into the eyes of your SoulMate.

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 “True Love is Seeking YOU… Just as You are Seeking True Love!”

But, do you know how to call it into your life with Grace & Dignity?

Or, will you Stay committed to the Habits & Practices that Keep it at Bay, and leave you Frustrated?

The Choice is ALWAYS YOURS.

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Wende Sanders, MS, CC is a Reinvention Strategist, Award-Winning Speaker, Coach, Author and the owner of a premier personal & professional development company for women ready to up level themselves through reinvention. She's a Certified Life, Career and Relationship Coach that enjoys teaching and working with Clients to transform their lives for the better.

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