I’m SO excited about the newly released book for girls called, You Are Beautiful! I routinely work with adult women who need to receive this very message.
So, I’m MORE than happy to support the efforts of my dear friend Robyn Abdusamad, the author of this book and another called, Wahid and His Special Friend.
You Are Beautiful tells the story of two young sisters who experience their first encounter with racial prejudice, and who are saddened by what they hear.
Throughout the course of the story they overcome intolerance, and realize the beauty of ethnic diversity and true friendship.
This book highlights the importance of countering ignorance with knowledge and kindness.
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“You’re not the same as you were before. You were much more muchier; you’ve lost your muchness.” –Mad Hatter
“My muchness?” – Alice
“In there (your heart/core), something is missing.” –Mad Hatter
I recently saw (twice) Alice in Wonderland directed by Tim Burton; I can’t believe how much I loved it. It was such a powerful metaphor for life. In my opinion, the dialogue above was one of the most powerful moments of the movie. And, based on Alice’s continual reference from that point forward to possessing her “muchness,” it was powerful to her as well. Many of us have found ourselves involved in events and circumstances that caused us to lose our muchness. Survivors of any type of abuse, molestation, rape, harassment, stalking, disease, cancer, job loss, etc are very likely to experience this as a result of their negative experiences. I’m very grateful to know for a fact that we can regain our muchness, once we decide that we deserve to reclaim it!
As with most aspects of personal development, it begins with making a decision. I hope that today you decide that you deserve to reclaim your God-given right to restore your muchness. If you still have some of it, but it seems to be on life support, then decide to resuscitate your muchness. If you are one of the phenomenal women that has successfully reconnected with and revived your muchness, please look around and help another woman that is currently where you have been. I promise, you won’t need to look far to find one.
Just as Alice does in the movie, we all have a Jabberwocky (scary dragon) that only we can slay. And we all have access to the “sword” we need to slay that dragon. The question I ask of myself and encourage you to ask yourself is “Am I willing to have faith in God and myself, face my fears (despite how real/pressing/pee-in-your-pants-scary they may be) and take the action to retrieve the sword and slay the foe?” For me the answer is “Absolutely! Yes!” I will admit that there was a PROCESS for me to get to that YES. But, I did it, by God’s grace and I believe you can too. If you decide, to reclaim your muchness and be much muchier once again!
I just saw this today, and I think it’s super cute and very encouraging, so I wanted to share it with you. This is a prime example of the fact that children learn what they live. This little girl has obviously seen and heard someone using affirmations and speaking positively. It’s so nice to see videos of kids doing positive things instead of pretending to be pop singers and dancing inapproriately and gyrating.
On May 14-15, I had the extreme pleasure of leading a woman’s retreat for single women. The event was called Smart, Sexy & Single: A Women’s Retreat and it was my response to the constant negative messages and attitudes that single women over 30 have hurled at them without regard to how they may impact us.
The workshops I facilitated during the retreat were: Sex, Spirituality & the Single Woman, A Woman’s Guide to being Happily Single and How to Avoid Marrying Cheaters, Jerks & Liars. This event was far more powerful than I could have even imagined and there were numerous aha’s, moments of extreme clarity and new understanding of why we make many of the choices we make (even when those choices may violate our values and principles).
I’m happy to have had the opportunity to use my knowledge, passion and gifts to help such a dynamic group of women. May God bless each of them with the happiness and love they deserve, just because.
Today, I had the honor and privilege of volunteering as a Career Coach for the WFMY Passport 2 Success event. This was my second time
working with this event and I continue to enjoy being able to contribute to others in such a significant way. I really enjoyed helping job seekers by providing suggestions, feedback and resources to assist in being better prepared for their searches. Two of the things I saw consistently were lack of clarity about what type of job is actually desired, and lack of confidence that someone would hire them. It always hurts me when I see a person convince themselves that they are not worthy or valuable. It’s my life’s purpose to help people, specifically women, to acknowledge their worth and know their value. That’s one reason I’m so grateful to be able to give back by participating in events like this.
If you are looking for a new job, here’s my advice:
I believe that success leaves clues. With that in mind, I study as many people as possible that have attained the type of “whole life’” success to which I aspire. That’s why I’m including the Celebrity Spotlight Feature in Phenomenal Life and Career Newsletter. It’s my extreme honor to feature our country’s First Lady as the first celebrity to be profiled.
Over the last several years I’ve had the pleasure of learning about the Phenomenal Woman that is First Lady Michelle Obama. During that time, I’ve adopted her as one of my mentors and role models. I aspire to be as gracious, stylish and confident as she appears to be.
In my opinion, Mrs. Obama is living proof that yes we can have it all, love, family, career, happiness and fulfillment if we are willing to work at it. Here are just 3 of the secrets to success I’ve learned from her:
1. Choose your priorities and let them shape your life.
“And in my own life, in my own small way, I’ve tried to give back to this country that has given me so much. That’s why I left a job at a law firm for a career in public service, working to empower young people to volunteer in their communities. Because I believe that each of us–no matter what our age or background or walk of life–each of us has something to contribute to the life of this nation.”
2. Being classy and intelligent are always fashionable and never go out of style.
“One of the lessons that I grew up with was to always stay true to yourself and never let what somebody else says distract you from your goals. And so when I hear about negative and false attacks, I really don’t invest any energy in them, because I know who I am.”
3. Self-care is not selfish, it’s smart; because, it refuels you so you can continue to give to others.
“I have freed myself to put me on the priority list and say, yes, I can make choices that make me happy, and it will ripple and benefit my kids, my husband, and my physical health. That’s hard for women to own; we’re not taught to do that. It’s a lesson that I want to teach my girls so they don’t wait for their “aha” moment until they’re in their 30s like I was (laughs). Maybe they can experience it a little earlier.”
My challenge to you is to take an assessment of your own life and career choices. Do they truly reflect who you are and your current priorities? Or are they more like some random mix of outcomes created by default? Let’s take a cue from Mrs. Obama, and be more intentional about how we design our lives. Many women spend more time designing their outfits than they do on designing their lives. Please don’t be one of them.
For attractive lips,
Speak words of kindness.
For lovely eyes,
Seek out the good in people.
For a slim figure,
Share your food with the hungry.
For beautiful hair,
Let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.
Walk with the knowledge you’ll never walk alone.
People, even more than things, have to be restored,
renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed;
Never throw out anybody.
Remember, if you ever need a helping hand,
you’ll find one at the end of your arm.
As you grow older you will discover that you have two hands;
one for helping yourself,
the other for helping others.
– Sam Levenson