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My Journey to 40

Preparing for 40

I had just turned 39 years old and I was already thinking about turning 40. "Had I accomplished the things I wanted to accomplish by 40? Was I the type of woman I wanted to be at 40? Had I learned from the stupid mistakes of the past? Was I giving myself credit for my successes?"

I’d started the countdown to turning 40, and I was doing a ton of personal reflection. There were certain life and career goals that I’d nailed, and others that I tanked (in my own mind). But I learned and grew from them all.

Disappointment

One of the biggest disappointments that I faced on this journey, was the realization of how much I’d held myself back from fully showing up in my own life. Part of it was “programing” that 'good girls' don’t call attention to themselves, it’s better to not really be seen. 'Righteous women' are too humble to acknowledge their God-given greatness, to do so would be interpreted as arrogance. And, 'shining your light' means being less than a 'good Believing woman', because again you really shouldn’t be seen. Believing those things most of my life left me always feeling that I couldn’t fully shine or show up the way I really wanted to show up in my life.

All the while, I truly admired the women that I saw who did shine brightly; I thought they were FIERCE! And I secretly wanted to be Fierce too.

Empowerment

Well, thank God, that this journey to 40 empowered me to release that “stinkin’ thinkin’,” and jump into becoming the woman that I truly want to be! Because, since then I’ve been able to transform several areas of my life for the better!

It’s important for me share the wealth, and empower more women to experience the transformation that I’m enjoying in my life. That’s why I created the “Fiercely Reinventing You” brand, why I wrote this "Fiercely Reinventing Your Life: Get Started Guide", and why I’m offering it to you for free.

Paying It Forward

I know that everyone will not be able to hire me to work with them 1-on-1, and everyone won’t sign up for one or more of my workshops and online courses. But, I do want everyone to be able to start down the path of personal transformation and striving to live your BEST life. It’s what I call living a Fierce and Phenomenal Life!

Paying It Forward

Fiercely Reinventing Your Life Guide Cover

So, hopefully this “glimpse behind the curtain” will help you to see why personal transformation is so important to me, why I have enjoyed coaching others to success, enjoyed being coached myself, and why I wrote this eBook for women like you and me.

If you know that although things are good right now (and from the outside looking in people think your life is great) but things could be even better. If you know that you want to stop holding yourself back, and you want to give yourself permission to really be as FIERCE as you desire to be, then you want to get your hands on this 14 page Guide. It's called "Fiercely Reinventing Your Life: Get Started Guide". You can get it at www.FiercelyReinventingYou.com

I'd love to hear how you use it to start transforming your own life!

So, hopefully this “glimpse behind the curtain” will help you to see why personal transformation is so important to me, why I have enjoyed coaching others to success, enjoyed being coached myself, and why I wrote this eBook for women like you and me.

If you know that although things are good right now (and from the outside looking in people think your life is great) but things could be even better. If you know that you want to stop holding yourself back, and you want to give yourself permission to really be as FIERCE as you desire to be, then you want to get your hands on this 14 page Guide. It's called "Fiercely Reinventing Your Life: Get Started Guide". You can get it at www.FiercelyReinventingYou.com

I'd love to hear how you use it to start transforming your own life!

I had just turned 39 years old and I was already thinking about turning 40. "Had I accomplished the things I wanted to accomplish by 40? Was I the type of woman I wanted to be at 40? Had I learned from the stupid mistakes of the past? Was I giving myself credit for my successes?"
I’d started the countdown to turning 40, and I was doing a ton of personal reflection. There were certain life and career goals that I’d nailed, and others that I tanked (in my own mind). But I learned and grew from them all.
 
One of the biggest disappointments that I faced on this journey, was the realization of how much I’d held myself back from fully showing up in my own life. Part of it was “programing” that 'good girls' don’t call attention to themselves, it’s better to not really be seen. 'Righteous women' are too humble to acknowledge their God-given greatness, to do so would be interpreted as arrogance. And, 'shining your light' means being less than a 'good Believing woman', because again you really shouldn’t be seen. Believing those things most of my life left me always feeling that I couldn’t fully shine or show up the way I really wanted to show up in my life.
All the while, I truly admired the women that I saw who did shine brightly; I thought they were FIERCE! And I secretly wanted to be Fierce too.
Well, thank God, that this journey to 40 empowered me to release that “stinkin’ thinkin’,” and jump into becoming the woman that I truly want to be! Because, since then I’ve been able to transform several areas of my life for the better!
It’s important for me share the wealth, and empower more women to experience the transformation that I’m enjoying in my life. That’s why I created the “Fiercely Reinventing You” brand, why I wrote this "Fiercely Reinventing Your Life: Get Started Guide", and why I’m offering it to you for free.
I know that everyone will not be able to hire me to work with them 1-on-1, and everyone won’t sign up for one or more of my workshops and online courses. But, I do want everyone to be able to start down the path of personal transformation and striving to live your BEST life. It’s what I call living a Fierce and Phenomenal Life!
So, hopefully this “glimpse behind the curtain” will help you to see why personal transformation is so important to me, why I have enjoyed coaching others to success, enjoyed being coached myself, and why I wrote this eBook for women like you and me.
If you know that although things are good right now (and from the outside looking in people think your life is great) but things could be even better. If you know that you want to stop holding yourself back, and you want to give yourself permission to really be as FIERCE as you desire to be, then you want to get your hands on this 14 page Guide. It's called "Fiercely Reinventing Your Life: Get Started Guide". You can get it at www.FiercelyReinventingYou.com
I'd love to hear how you use it to start transforming your own life!

The Making of a Queen

“The young queen larva develops differently because it is more heavily fed royal jelly, a protein-rich secretion from glands on the heads of young beeworkers. If not for being heavily fed royal jelly, the queen larva would have developed into a regular worker bee. All honey bee larvae are fed some royal jelly for the first few days after hatching but only queen larvae are fed on it exclusively. As a result of the difference in diet, the queen will develop into a sexually mature female, unlike the worker bees.”

Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Queen_bee

A Queen feeds on substances that support her Divine role and Destiny.

So her Spiritual food makes her more of who she was Created to be; it empowers her to remain Encouraged. It reminds her of her Divine Assignment and the Most High God she serves. She proudly serves the King of Kings.

Her Physical food energizes and equips her with needed stamina. It nurtures her body temple, and prepares it to give birth to new life and better futures; it does not weaken her, slow her down, or cause her harm.

Her Mental food informs her, uplifts her, cultivates and sustains the Wisdom and Discernment needed to humbly serve God’s Kingdom, as ONLY she can.

Others also had access to the Queen-making substance that nourished this Queen. Yet, they stopped short. They fell short in continuing the practices that would lead to a Queenly transformation.

Yes, a Queen started out from the same humble stock as everyone else. It was only what she consumed and absorbed that lead to her royal transformation.

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It’s quite unfortunate that so many females have apparently forgotten who they are. Separated from their true identity, they are not ladies, or even women, and they’re nowhere near becoming Queenly; they’re just females who suffer from an identity crisis. They live their lives in ways that bring them disgrace, and secret misery. They are jealous and scornful toward women who DO know who they are, women who own their divine identity and are living well, while striving for better.

Because she doesn’t know who she is, she answers to names and titles that are beneath her. This female is ill equipped. She’s ill equipped to live a Phenomenal Lifestyle™, to walk in her purpose, to recognize her King, or to successfully battle the enemy. Thus, she is even more vulnerable to destruction. She shares her body and her soul with the enemy and calls it love.

No, she doesn’t know what LOVE is, so she settles for a copy of a shadow of an illusion, which she calls “love“.

When that “feeling” ends, she moves on to find “love” elsewhere. Until, she has allowed dozens of jesters to abandon their seeds of lust in her treasure trove, and yet… she STILL feels empty. Unless she Awakens to her divine identity and becomes Conscious, this female will remain deplete of the Life-sustaining force with which she started her Journey. Her divine fitrah, the God-conscious nature that was planted inside her before her very birth, is the key to accessing the mystery she craves to solve.

Yet she knew not, because she never knew WHO SHE WAS. WHO SHE IS. WHO SHE CAN BE.

Know that it’s never too late to return to your natural, divine identity, and resume your place in God’s Kingdom. It all STARTS with knowing “WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE?”

5 Signs You Are Thirsty

I recently had a moment of clarity in which I realized that I had been truly thirsty regarding a certain situation. This realization was at first quite embarrassing, who wants to admit that she suffers from thirst i.e. desperation?

However, once I realized the reality of my circumstance, I was able to readjust and rearrange myself such that I could approach the situation differently.

From my revelation I have determined 5 ways to know if you too are being thirsty in some area of your life.

1. You settle for less than what you know you deserve, and less than what you actually want.

For example, you settle for living together or just being boyfriend and girlfriend when what you actually want is marriage.

2. You don’t feel good about yourself when you think about that situation or person.

For example they make you feel like something is wrong with you, or you are not good enough.

3. You forget just how awesome & Phenomenal you actually are.

You may get caught up feeling that you need to prove yourself, in order to be worthy or accepted.

4. You are willing to violate your values and principles in order to be accepted or approved by this person.

You know that there are certain healthy boundaries you should set and maintain, yet you disregard them in order to be accepted.

5. You give someone else the power to dictate your value and your worth based on their opinion and their demonstration of acceptance.

You’re worth was established by your Creator. No one else has the power to dictate it unless you personally give them that power. A woman who is connected with who she truly is, her God-given self, knows to never give away such power and authority. Doing so is more than a sign of desperation and thirst, it’s an indication of an identity crisis. To give away the power to dictate your worth as a woman is an indication that you don’t know who you are or Whose you are. And that MUST be corrected!

Last Week of Registration for the 2014 Women’s Retreat

 

This is a Heads Up to let you know that the Registration for the Smart, S.E.X.Y. & Single Women’s Retreat ends in 1 week, on Sunday night Nov. 2 at 11:59 pm EST.

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The Clock is ticking!


If you’ve been meaning to register, but haven’t gotten around to it yet, CONGRATULATIONS on deciding to join us!!! 🙂 Now, go ahead & REGISTER, because the clock is ticking… Here’s that link again. http://www.SmartSEXYandSingleRetreat.com


If you are still undecided about whether or not you want to attend, I ask you these questions to help you make a decision in which you can feel confident. Whether you choose “Yes,” or “No” about coming to the Retreat.

If you do NOT join us at the Retreat on 11-8-14:

  • Will you be doing something else during that time, that has the power & potential to move you forward in your Life, your Finances, your Self-Confidence & your Relationships with Quality Men? If the answer is not, “ABSOLUTELY YES!” Then, what excuses (otherwise known as reasons) are you allowing to hold you back from registering? How long will you allow yourself to be held hostage by these excuses/reasons?

 

  • Do you have a different plan of action that you have already begun implementing that will move you toward your goal of a happy, loving relationship? Does this plan include a proven, step-by-step Guide AND a reliable Accountability partner who will tell you the truth in a spirit of Love, when you fall off, or when you are wrong? If the answer is not, “ABSOLUTELY YES!”Then, what excuses (a.k.a. reasons) are you allowing to hold you back from registering? How long will you allow yourself to be held hostage by these excuses/reasons?

 

  • Will you utilize the funds you didn’t invest in your personal development via this Retreat, to invest in yourself via another proven Program, Coaching Session or Seminar? Or will you just spend it on something that won’t make a difference in your life AND you can’t even remember a month from now? Money is a TOOL, it’s neither good nor evil. How we choose to use the tools at our disposal will dictate the lives we build for ourselves. “Wherever your treasure is, there the desires of your heart will also be.” Matt. 6:21


The Smart, S.E.X.Y. & Single Women’s Retreat is on Sat. November 8, 2014 from 10 am till 4 pm EST at the Piedmont Club in Winston-Salem, NC and I hope to see you there!


I’ve designed this daylong Retreat to help you learn from Smart, Women, Experts who can equip you with the knowledge & strategies to transform your Life, to stop the habits that may be standing in your way and start the practices that really work to make you more attractive to your SoulMate (and create a pretty Phenomenal Lifestyle™ for yourself in the process).


If you know that you’re ready to stop wondering “Where are all the GOOD MEN?” &/or “What am I doing wrong?,” then come on! What are you waiting for? Check out the Retreat details & Register while Tickets are still available.


I promise you, you won’t regret coming. I GUARANTEE it!

 

Registration is closing SOON, so don’t wait any longer! Grab your seat right now, while it’s fresh on your mind & seats are still available. Here’s that link again. http://www.SmartSEXYandSingleRetreat.com

We rarely regret the actions we take while walking by Faith, we frequently regret the things we could have done differently, but didn’t. Don’t let missing out on this Retreat, become something you regret.
 

Thank You To Our Awesome Retreat SPONSORS:

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Make up, Fashion, Money & More! Our Guest Speakers have you covered!

 

At the 3rd Annual SSS Women’s Retreat, I’m SUPER excited to announce that we have Expert Guest Speakers & Special Sponsors as well!!!

I’m not going to spill the beans all at once, but just to let you know, we have a Financial Expert coming to help you get your Money right. Both now, and as you get closer to retirement. Because “Girlfriend,” (in my Suze Orman voice) “a man is NOT a Plan.” (More about her in a few days!)

Today, I want to tell you a little about Marviette Usher, a Gold Sponsor for the SSS Women’s Retreat. Marviette Usher

Marviette is a Wife, Mother, and Entrepreneur, among many other roles & hats she wears. She is with Mary Kay Cosmetics, and also is the Founder of the non-profit organization, Phenomenal Woman.

She says, “I have a very strong belief & desire to impact the lives of women I come into contact with. My ultimate desire is to see strong and independent women experience an abundantly fulfilled life and unveil any hidden talents, gifts and abilities. Women carry a lot in their hearts and minds and it affects us in all areas of our life.

My organization, “Phenomenal Woman is the result of a sincere passion I have for women and how they see themselves even in their season of brokenness.” I have been commissioned to equip women by encouraging, motivating, and inspiring them to see themselves as the peculiar, unique, beautifully and wonderfully made creation of their Phenomenal God. I am very elated that I surrendered to my “greater purpose” and the realization that I was made for more and desires to see the same for other women!

Mary Kay’s philosophy of God 1st, Family 2nd and Career 3rd is in such alignment with what I believe is the balance to my life!”

My Smart, S.E.X.Y. & Single Women’s Retreat is on November 8, 2014 and I can’t wait to see you there!

I’ve designed this daylong Retreat to help you to stop the habits that may be standing in your way and start the practices that really work to make you more attractive to your SoulMate (and create a pretty Phenomenal Lifestyle™ for yourself in the process).

If you know that you’re ready to stop wondering “What am I doing wrong?,” then come on! What are you waiting for? Check out the Retreat details & save while the Retreat is on SALE.

I promise you, you won’t regret coming. You have my word on it!
BTW- Look for more on our other Talented Sponsors & Speakers, coming in the next few days. But, don’t wait, the Sale price on tickets ENDS at 12 Midnight on 10-20-14. Grab your seat right now, while it’s fresh on your mind. Here’s that link again.  http://www.SmartSEXYandSingleRetreat.com

The 3 C’s of Phenomenal Relationships

The most important thing you will ever have in your life is your relationships. Your relationship with your Creator, the relationship you have with yourself, and your relationships with the most important people in your life.

However, learning “how to” BE in a quality relationship is one of the many things most people never learn, which would exponentially improve the caliber of their lives.

When it comes to creating and maintaining quality relationships with the people in your life, especially your spouse, there are three core aspects to apply.

Clarity

In order to ever get what you want in life, it’s essential to actually know what it is that you want. The same reigns true when it comes to your love life.

If what you want is a happy, healthy, passionate, and loving marriage, be clear about that. Discuss with your partner what that actually looks like for the two of you. Because, it can look different for each couple.

Modeling a couple that appears to be happy & healthy is great. Adapting what works for them, so that it’s a proper fit for the two of you is even better. When times become challenging, go back to the Vision you both created for your union.

Commitment

When you chose to enter a marriage, you are not only pledging to commit your life to your partner. You are pledging to remain committed to the commitment of marriage.

In a day and time when few people actually ever commit to ANYTHING, the concept of being committed to a commitment can seem very novel.

However, when you know that the foundation you’ve built your relationship on is solid, you can withstand the storms and tests of life with Grace. And come out on the other side even stronger and more in love.

Communication

“Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!” It’s almost become a cliché; however, honest and respectful conversation between partners is truly one of the time-tested “Secrets” of a lasting relationship.

Communication comes in several forms. It’s not always verbal. Gary Chapman has identified 5 Love Languages, which he describes in his book which holds the same title.

It’s essential that you learn the Love Language of your spouse, and then make sure to let it guide you as you express your appreciation and adoration.

When you reinforce the foundation of your marriage with effective communication, it further solidifies your bond, and makes your partner truly feel understood and valued.

And that’s what we ALL want to feel from our most important relationships.

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“True Love is Seeking YOU… Just as You are Seeking True Love!”

But, do you know how to call it into your life with Grace & Dignity?

Or, will you Stay committed to the Habits & Practices that Keep it at Bay, and leave you Frustrated?

The Choice is ALWAYS YOURS.

NEW 2-Pay Option for SSS 2014 Retreat!

I’m excited to announce that a 2-Pay Option is available, to make attending the Smart, SEXY & Single Women’s Retreat even MORE convenient for you! Flyer

This limited time, Payment Plan applies to both the General Admission tickets and the VIP tickets. 🙂

But, don’t wait to take advantage of it.

Because, the 2-Pay goes away at Midnight on Sunday evening, Oct. 12, 2014.

BTW, I’m also glad to share with you the NEW Flyer for the Retreat!

I LOVE helping women to improve their lives, and experience more LOVE. I hope you’ll choose to join me for this very special event.

It’s so much more than a Women’s Empowerment event, but you WILL come out empowered!

You’ll also learn tips and strategies to help you with your dating, courting, and your overall Love Life.

PLUS, you’ll get all of this and MORE built upon a foundation of transformational personal development.

 

To learn more about the Smart, SEXY & Single Women’s Retreat, just click here.

 

 

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