Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
– 1 Corinthians 13
For many singles hoping to find true love, it can seem as though all the good ones are taken. Or, maybe that SoulMate love just isn’t for you.
But, please do NOT be discouraged! God has someone very special that is the perfect match for you!
If you met your SoulMate tomorrow, would that mean that you’d have to cut things off with your FWB (Friend With Benefits)?
Would you have to learn how to cook? (They say the stomach is the shortest way to a man’s heart, and my experience tells me that this time “they” are right!)
Would you have to remove the pics of your ex from your home, your phone and your Facebook? (Girl, you know you should have been done that!)
Perhaps you’re still holding on to resentment and unforgiveness for someone from your past. (ie, a relative that did you wrong.)
Even if those aren’t true for you, if you know that there are some loose ends that you need to tie up, then DON’T WAIT until you meet someone new before you start. The best way to begin a new relationship is on a nice clean footing with no residue from your past relationships threatening to upset the apple cart, or worse to blow up in your face.
At this year’s Smart, S.E.X.Y & Single Women’s Retreat, I’ll be sharing many tips and strategies to help you stay encouraged during your single season. As well as how to make the tweeks you need to become irresistible to your SoulMate. If you want to learn how, then join me there!
Having an ongoing personal relationship with your Creator ensures that you’ll know His Voice when He speaks to you. If you need to be reconnected, know that He’s waiting for you with open arms! God wants to be a part of your life, let Him. 🙂
There is NO other way to achieve & maintain phenomenal LOVE, Life & Success without a committed personal relationship with God! Please, don’t allow guilt, shame or embarrassment to keep you away from the Compassion, Mercy & Forgiveness that is God.
It’s listed as second, rather than first, only because so many of us allow our sin to separate us from God & His Infinite Mercy and then don’t feel worthy of having a relationship with God. I find that it’s often necessary to renew our mindset and reprogram our thoughts & beliefs before we even feel worthy of being connected to God. Wherever you are in your journey, know that you are certainly worthy of LOVE, peace, happiness & hope. Developing a Committed Spiritual Walk (one of the 9 Pillars of a Phenomenal Lifestyle™) is the first step in that direction.
It seems like an odd question at first, but it’s certainly one that begs to be asked and answered. In our younger years, we were frequently admonished to be careful about who we picked as friends, the type of music to which we listened and what we watched on TV. These pearls of wisdom may have sounded like this: “Birds of a feather flock together. Like attracts like. As a man thinkith, so shall he be.” Those warnings were usually made by well intentioned adults who wanted to make sure that we surrounded ourselves with primarily positive and uplifting influences.
These time-worn maxims are equally relevant to both the young and the young at heart. However, for many of us, once we become adults we start to think that we are above being influenced. We think that we can associate with unsavory people, listen to belittling music or watch sexually explicit and other disturbing images on TV, and that they no longer have any impact on us. But, the reality is that we are always attracting something, either positive or negative into our lives. The primary factor that determines whether what we attract is positive or negative is our thoughts, which lead to our beliefs. There is so much information available about The Law of Attraction and I encourage you to research it.
That means that if we continue to surround ourselves with people, things and concepts that represent everything we don’t want to be, do or have, then we will continue to attract those undesirable experiences into our lives. Another pattern that I see frequently is people talking constantly about what they don’t want or don’t have. For example, women talking about how all “the good one’s” are taken, or that there are no good men left.
So what’s a gal to do? After all we do have needs, and we deserve to have them met. The fact is that from time to time we will face undesirable circumstances in our lives, but how we handle them will determine the frequency and duration of these events. Sometimes a negative experience is a test. And, in God’s infinite mercy He allows us to continue to retake our tests until we pass them. When you stop focusing on what you don’t have and start appreciating what you do have in your situation, your own thoughts, beliefs, and subsequently your behavior can begin to change. These changes can then start to attract exactly the thing you long for.
You certainly don’t have to take my word on this matter. You can test it out for yourself. Think about a very negative person you know; the type of person that can find the negative in everything. If it was a clear sunny day she would complain about needing to wear sunglasses, if she won $20 Million she would complain about the taxes. Now, think about the type of events that seem to always take place in her life. Does she always seem to have some new tragedy or unfortunate occurrence happening, that she can’t wait to tell you all about? Well, this is not a surprise to anyone that understands the Law of Attraction. This type of person continues to attract drama into his or her life because s/he focuses and meditates on drama. With that said, I ask you again: “What are you attracting?”
I challenge you to incorporate a positive practice into your life that will help you to counter the negativity that may surround you. Your positive practice may involve increasing the frequency or quality of your prayers, writing positive affirmations and reading them each day or merely turning off the news and “talking heads” TV shows. You can easily adopt a variety of proactive patterns that will help you ensure that what you are attracting is indeed what you want for yourself.
If you want to attract a better Love Life, you’ll want to join me for the Smart, S.E.X.Y & Single Women’s Retreat on Saturday August 17, 2013. Check out the Retreat Information page to get the dets and see if it’s right for you! Frequently, we need help recognizing the patterns, and pitfalls we endure on our quest for true love. That’s EXACTLY what you’ll receive at the Retreat.