I had just turned 39 years old and I was already thinking about turning 40. "Had I accomplished the things I wanted to accomplish by 40? Was I the type of woman I wanted to be at 40? Had I learned from the stupid mistakes of the past? Was I giving myself credit for my successes?"
I’d started the countdown to turning 40, and I was doing a ton of personal reflection. There were certain life and career goals that I’d nailed, and others that I tanked (in my own mind). But I learned and grew from them all.
One of the biggest disappointments that I faced on this journey, was the realization of how much I’d held myself back from fully showing up in my own life. Part of it was “programing” that 'good girls' don’t call attention to themselves, it’s better to not really be seen. 'Righteous women' are too humble to acknowledge their God-given greatness, to do so would be interpreted as arrogance. And, 'shining your light' means being less than a 'good Believing woman', because again you really shouldn’t be seen. Believing those things most of my life left me always feeling that I couldn’t fully shine or show up the way I really wanted to show up in my life.
All the while, I truly admired the women that I saw who did shine brightly; I thought they were FIERCE! And I secretly wanted to be Fierce too.
Well, thank God, that this journey to 40 empowered me to release that “stinkin’ thinkin’,” and jump into becoming the woman that I truly want to be! Because, since then I’ve been able to transform several areas of my life for the better!
It’s important for me share the wealth, and empower more women to experience the transformation that I’m enjoying in my life. That’s why I created the “Fiercely Reinventing You” brand, why I wrote this "Fiercely Reinventing Your Life: Get Started Guide", and why I’m offering it to you for free.
I know that everyone will not be able to hire me to work with them 1-on-1, and everyone won’t sign up for one or more of my workshops and online courses. But, I do want everyone to be able to start down the path of personal transformation and striving to live your BEST life. It’s what I call living a Fierce and Phenomenal Life!
So, hopefully this “glimpse behind the curtain” will help you to see why personal transformation is so important to me, why I have enjoyed coaching others to success, enjoyed being coached myself, and why I wrote this eBook for women like you and me.
If you know that although things are good right now (and from the outside looking in people think your life is great) but things could be even better. If you know that you want to stop holding yourself back, and you want to give yourself permission to really be as FIERCE as you desire to be, then you want to get your hands on this 14 page Guide. It's called "Fiercely Reinventing Your Life: Get Started Guide". You can get it at www.FiercelyReinventingYou.com
I'd love to hear how you use it to start transforming your own life!
I’m SO excited about the newly released book for girls called, You Are Beautiful! I routinely work with adult women who need to receive this very message.
So, I’m MORE than happy to support the efforts of my dear friend Robyn Abdusamad, the author of this book and another called, Wahid and His Special Friend.
You Are Beautiful tells the story of two young sisters who experience their first encounter with racial prejudice, and who are saddened by what they hear.
Throughout the course of the story they overcome intolerance, and realize the beauty of ethnic diversity and true friendship.
This book highlights the importance of countering ignorance with knowledge and kindness.
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In the wake of the loss of Robin Williams, among countless others, due to the agony of depression, I knew that I must shine a light on this very sad, and often very lonely illness. Any negative health condition can impact your relationships. I believe mental health challenges have the biggest potential to do so, because many people are still so uninformed about the vast ramifications they can have, both on the person suffering from the condition as well as on those around them. This article is my attempt to remove the veil of shame and shine the light of knowledge to help minimize unnecessary suffering.
Depression and Anxiety Disorders are serious medical illnesses that impact the lives and livelihoods of over 40 million U.S. residents. That means over 18% of the American population has been diagnosed with one or both of these devastating conditions. These numbers don’t even factor in the family, friends and colleagues of those who are diagnosed, and the negative impact these diseases have on the loved ones of those who are living with them.
An overwhelming feeling of sadness, hopelessness, and inadequacy that is typically felt over a period of time are the hallmarks of Depression.
Anxiety Disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., according to ADAA.org. They develop from a complex set of risk factors, including genetics, brain chemistry, personality & life events.
We all feel sad & blue, at times. It’s a normal emotion just like happiness and frustration. The problem comes when it’s not just a passing feeling of unhappiness. That’s when it can literally destroy parts of your life, including your job/school performance, marriage, parent-child dynamics, etc.
So, How Do You Know If You Or A Loved One May Be Suffering From Depression?
For major depression, you may experience a sad or depressed mood, or an inability to feel pleasure, plus five or more of the following symptoms, for at least a two-week period
If you notice the symptoms listed above, it’s time to see a Qualified health care provider. Just as you wouldn’t go to see your Clergy first if you went into Labor, or to fix your Heart Attack symptoms, you should treat conditions of the brain, i.e. Mental Health with the same level of diligence and concern. Go seek professional medical help, if you’re experiencing these symptoms, or any others that alarm you.
How Do We Treat Depression?
There are a number of approaches that can be effective in treating depression. Here are just a few:
I trust that this article will serve to inform and encourage you about the realities of battling depression or any other mental health challenge. You are certainly NOT alone, and there should be NO stigma attached with getting professional help for any health condition you may face. With that said, prayer and faith do have their place in healing and treatment of any condition. I always add them to any other form of medical treatment I pursue.
Disclaimer: I am NOT a Physician or Clinical Mental Health Provider. This article is for informational purposes only.
I hear some version of this comment it seems like every week from single women that are frustrated over their relationship prospects.
Heck, I remember thinking it a few times when I was single. But the truth is, that there ARE Good, Marriage-Minded, Men of God EVERYWHERE. So, before you load up the truck and move to Beverly, take a breath and read on.
Well, if they are everywhere, but you don’t seem to be meeting any of them, what’s a gal to do?
Here are 4 things to keep in mind as you traverse your way through your single season and prepare to be in the relationship of your dreams:
God told us that for everything there is a Season. He’s ALREADY chosen your SoulMate for you and determined when & WHERE you’ll meet. However, there is ALWAYS work to be done or an assignment to complete before we are permitted to walk into the next Season of our lives. Are you using this “meantime” space to prepare for the Season that you SAY you want to enter? If not, it’s time to get to work as you wait for God’s perfect timing! Everyone loves the Harvest season, but when it’s time to toil and labor as we sow our seeds into fertile ground, most of us are somewhere sitting under a tree complaining about the heat.
We all have a “List,” I had one too! But some of you have crafted a list from a place of fear and desiring to protect yourself from ANY potential hurt that could ever come your way. (That’s not even possible, to be quite honest.) When fear & mistrust is at the center of your efforts, you can believe that you won’t be able to see as clearly as you think you do. It’s VERY likely that you are screening out some amazing men, just because they aren’t taller than you, making 6 figures or may have lost some hair. Open your eyes today as you run your errands or go to the gym. There are men everywhere, and one of them could be the perfect fit for you.
Alright, so we just discussed your list. Well, guess what? Your husband-to-be has a list too! Would the type of man that you want to attract into your life be looking for a woman like you? If you aren’t sure, there’s your answer.
If you’re constantly in your Masculine Energy (which may be perfectly fine for work, it can help you to get the job done) but never allow your Feminine Energy to take center stage, it will be difficult to attract a man who wants a Feminine woman. Which by the way is almost ALL men.
Note: Don’t get confused on this one, you can be pretty and still have masculine energy. I’ve known a women for over 15 years that struggles with this one. She’s beautiful, fit, smart and wears stylish clothes. She has no problem getting men to approach her… initially. The problem is once you spend any time around her you can sense that her energy is very masculine & competitive. She’s yet to get married (something she desires) and doesn’t understand why.
If you know that one or more of these is an area that you could improve upon, if your dating or courting life is not what you desire, then I invite you to join me on Valentine’s Day weekend for a special workshop for Single Women. It’s called Kissing Frogs & Other Things That Chase Away Your SoulMate And Keep You Single.
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“True Love is Seeking YOU… Just as You are Seeking True Love!”
But, do you know how to call it into your life with Grace & Dignity?
Or, will you Stay committed to the Habits & Practices that Keep it at Bay, and leave you Frustrated?
The Choice is ALWAYS YOURS.
This time of year, many of us tend to put on the “cruise control” and kind of coast into the New Year. Please, don’t do that. The time we’re gifted with is so precious, and we owe it to ourselves to utilize every moment of it. I’d like to share my tips to help you to finish out the year in a way that positions you to “knock it out of the park” in the New Year, and experience the phenomenal life, love & success you desire (not to mention more confidence because you have a plan that works)!
It’s the year’s end, and for sure you’ve learned a lot about what worked well for you this year, as well as what did not. Sometimes our life lessons come wrapped in the guise of “failure” or “disappointment,” and we must brush off the dirt and find a way to move forward with our dignity and our faith intact. A wise women builds her home, while a foolish woman tears hers down with her OWN hands. And wisdom is earned as we learn from both our successes and perceived failures. Allow the wisdom acquired to propel you forward to fulfill the Vision that God has placed within you.
The first time I learned of this concept was when I read Steven Covey’s book, 7 Habits of Highly Successful People. Although we are at the end of the current year, we have a whole new year that is approaching, Gw. And, it’s full of possibilities for us to pursue; potential for us to realize. The question is, how do we make the most of it? That’s where this concept comes into play.
I encourage you to schedule an appointment with yourself, so you can take a few moments to determine where you want to be this time next year. (If you use The Phenomenal Lifestyle Design Planner, my 1st book, there’s a dedicated section just for this purpose. ) Whether you use the New Year, your birthday, the fiscal year or some other date as your set point for beginning and ending cycles, it’s important to make these assessments. 1) Knowing that there is indeed an end, 2) being clear on what you want to be, do and have when you get there, and 3) then starting down a path that will get you there is essential.
As you close out 2013, and bring in 2014 are your actions and internal dialog moving you closer toward that Vision? If not, that MUST change. Otherwise, one year from now your life (fitness, relationships, finances, etc.) will likely be exactly the same as it is today, or worse.
If the lessons you’ve learned are the fuel for your success, your Vision serves as your destination. The scripture says, without a vision people will perish. God knows that we absolutely NEED to be moving toward something that’s better than where we are (even if we think where we are is pretty cool). If you’ve completed my recommendation from the previous section, then you have a Vision. Now is the time to allow it to inspire you to pursue purposeful action. Permit it to motivate you during “slow seasons,” and always submit it to God for His Blessing and Assistance.
If you know that you want to experience MORE and Better in 2014, I invite you to join me on Tuesday, December 17 for my FREE Webinar “3 Keys to Maximize 2014, Starting Now.” During this complimentary, content-rich training, I will address 3 of the top areas that cause phenomenal women to struggle, (money, love & health) and outline specific solutions that you can implement right away. Register now, while it’s on your mind, at www.DreamBIGandTakeAction.com.
Have you been “faking the funk” for so long that you don’t know what it feels like to be genuinely happy and fulfilled in certain aspects of your life? If any of these touches a sore spot, you may be guilty as charged. But no cause for alarm, because “now you know, and knowing is half the battle.” 🙂
1. You know you need help to get unstuck, or to go to the next level, yet you don’t take sufficient action to get you to the level you say you desire. When an athlete decides she wants to become an Olympian, she doesn’t settle for the volunteer coach at the local community center, since it’s free. No, she hires a professional coach that has the knowledge and experience to help her achieve her goals.
2. You’re so used to lying to yourself, that you don’t even know what the truth is anymore. Look, being optimistic is fabulous, and so is speaking those things that “are not,” as though they are. But, those are different than straight up lying to yourself. Some of the most frequent lies I hear women tell themselves are:
3. You rely on “Travel or Retail Therapy” to get a reprieve from the emptiness & sadness, and provide a temporary high or distraction. When taking this route, the problem has NOT been addressed & resolved, so it’s still there when you return from your trip, or once the “new stuff” scent wears off. Plus, often these approaches lead to bad debt and falling out of Financial Integrity (one of the 9 Pillars of a Phenomenal Lifestyle).
When I’m a guest speaker at various no cost or low cost events, like Women’s Empowerment events, I frequently meet women that share with me their life & relationship struggles and goals. Then, they acknowledge that they don’t know how to realize their goals. When I share with them that I can help, all too often they start with, “The way my bank account is set up…” That’s when otherwise smart and capable women of faith start to fall into #2 by lying to themselves and making excuses to not equip themselves with the tools to uplevel their lives and relationships. Inside they know it’s time to take advantage of a professional coach who can show them a short cut to life & relationship success.
If you tell yourself “It’s all good. I’m fine.” But deep down you know it’s not true, it’s time to make a change. If you’re sick of having “stuffitis,” of traveling the globe trying to outrun the emptiness inside, it’s time to try something different. If you know that you frequently get what you pay for, and free just ain’t cuttin’ it, then upgrade your results by upgrading your investment in yourself. An committed investment in yourself will ALWAYS yield a return on investment (ROI). If you’re ready to being working with a experienced Life Coach with a proven track record, take advantage of the BIGGEST SALE I’ve ever had, before the discount code expires. Remember, the code to be entered in the checkout cart is gratitude50.