The Holidays are here, and it’s a time of great cheer!
But, what if it really isn’t a very cheerful time for you? Whether it’s the festivities of Christmas & New Years Eve, the 4th of July when folks are grillin’ and chillin’, Thanksgiving when the tables are spread with yummy delights or any other special day, being single can be TOUGH.
Holidays are supposed to be about Celebrating, FUN, Family, Friends, and of course Food! But, what if YOU are alone during the holiday, or any other day of the year for that matter? What do the lonely do during the festivities?
I’ve been there myself, and I can tell you that it SUCKS to feel lonely! It’s especially awful to feel lonely when you are not actually alone.
But, what I’ve learned is that EVERY cloud has a silver lining. And, even the painful moments in life can and DO give birth to the pleasantries of life. So, the key is to NOT allow these feelings to take you down, rather to use these feelings to guide you through to a better space and place. (They also serve to make the sweetness of love all the more sweet, when you do met your own Mr. Right.)
Here are 5 simple ways I’ve learned to beat the lonely blues:
1. Be Creative
Do you frequently find yourself “too busy” to do the things you enjoy the most? Sure, that’s true for many of us. Well, the silver lining to the cloud of being lonely, is that it gives you the space to catch up on your hobbies.
Creativity is such a powerful outlet! Use it to express your feelings, your aspirations, or anything you so desire. Some of the most beautiful and touching art was birthed out of emotional distress. Use your God-given creativity to express yourself.
2. Move & Get Active
This helps you to get out of your head (where you’re most likely to feel lonely). As you’re moving you may decide to exercise by doing Zumba, Yoga or a brisk walk/jog. Or, you can get a double impact by getting your movement while you do chores around the house.
Tip: Whatever form of activity and movement you chose, make sure that during it, you are in a CONSTANT state of Appreciation. Being able to move without assistance is a massive blessing on its own. Additionally, when we have laundry to clean and put away, that means we HAVE clothes, linens, AND a Home where they belong. Those are ALL Blessings.
It’s SO easy to have a pity party when you’re feeling lonely. But the truth is that there is someone else who’s challenges are harder than yours.
Giving of yourself to help your fellow human, yields rewards that are indescribable. Plus, as an added bonus, while you are volunteering, you just may meet your SoulMate! And that’s great, because you’ll know that he cares about helping others as much as you do. That’s a must have characteristic is a great husband.
4. Call or Vist an Elderly Relative or Community Member
If you’re feeling lonely, it’s likely others are too. In our culture, the elderly are often forgotten. You just may make someone’s day by remembering her with a phone call or a personal visit. In fact, after the visit, you’ll probably realize that SHE just made YOUR day.
Prayer is obviously the FIRST go-to solution for any problem or challenge that you face. When you pray that God ease your pain, and provide you with comfort, you are tapping into the Divine source of Healing and Love.
Many of us use prayer as a backup plan, when all else fails. I encourage you to turn to this “secret weapon” first. Then, do the other things I recommend. Before you know it, you’ll be feeling happy, content, and better off for the experience.
There are so many things that you can do when you’re feeling lonely. Your initial response may be to turn to a “comforting addiction,” such as watching TV, emotional eating, shopping, drinking alcohol or calling a “friend with benefits,” anything to distract yourself from the fact that you’re feeling this way.
Although these MAY offer a temporary balm for your ailment, they are NOT a cure for anything. In fact, as you already know, they can cause a whole new set of problems themselves. Plus, these “comforting addictions” CAN and WILL make you LESS attractive to your Mr. Right.
It’s better to do something that will enhance yourself and make you a MORE INTERESTING woman, than to do things that ADD baggage or create problems.
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“True Love is Seeking YOU… Just as You are Seeking True Love!”
But, do you know how to call it into your life with Grace & Dignity?
Or, will you Stay committed to the Habits & Practices that Keep it at Bay, and leave you Frustrated?
The Choice is ALWAYS YOURS.