Make up, Fashion, Money & More! Our Guest Speakers have you covered!


At the 3rd Annual SSS Women’s Retreat, I’m SUPER excited to announce that we have Expert Guest Speakers & Special Sponsors as well!!!

I’m not going to spill the beans all at once, but just to let you know, we have a Financial Expert coming to help you get your Money right. Both now, and as you get closer to retirement. Because “Girlfriend,” (in my Suze Orman voice) “a man is NOT a Plan.” (More about her in a few days!)

Today, I want to tell you a little about Marviette Usher, a Gold Sponsor for the SSS Women’s Retreat. Marviette Usher

Marviette is a Wife, Mother, and Entrepreneur, among many other roles & hats she wears. She is with Mary Kay Cosmetics, and also is the Founder of the non-profit organization, Phenomenal Woman.

She says, “I have a very strong belief & desire to impact the lives of women I come into contact with. My ultimate desire is to see strong and independent women experience an abundantly fulfilled life and unveil any hidden talents, gifts and abilities. Women carry a lot in their hearts and minds and it affects us in all areas of our life.

My organization, “Phenomenal Woman is the result of a sincere passion I have for women and how they see themselves even in their season of brokenness.” I have been commissioned to equip women by encouraging, motivating, and inspiring them to see themselves as the peculiar, unique, beautifully and wonderfully made creation of their Phenomenal God. I am very elated that I surrendered to my “greater purpose” and the realization that I was made for more and desires to see the same for other women!

Mary Kay’s philosophy of God 1st, Family 2nd and Career 3rd is in such alignment with what I believe is the balance to my life!”

My Smart, S.E.X.Y. & Single Women’s Retreat is on November 8, 2014 and I can’t wait to see you there!

I’ve designed this daylong Retreat to help you to stop the habits that may be standing in your way and start the practices that really work to make you more attractive to your SoulMate (and create a pretty Phenomenal Lifestyle™ for yourself in the process).

If you know that you’re ready to stop wondering “What am I doing wrong?,” then come on! What are you waiting for? Check out the Retreat details & save while the Retreat is on SALE.

I promise you, you won’t regret coming. You have my word on it!
BTW- Look for more on our other Talented Sponsors & Speakers, coming in the next few days. But, don’t wait, the Sale price on tickets ENDS at 12 Midnight on 10-20-14. Grab your seat right now, while it’s fresh on your mind. Here’s that link again.

The 3 C’s of Phenomenal Relationships

The most important thing you will ever have in your life is your relationships. Your relationship with your Creator, the relationship you have with yourself, and your relationships with the most important people in your life.

However, learning “how to” BE in a quality relationship is one of the many things most people never learn, which would exponentially improve the caliber of their lives.

When it comes to creating and maintaining quality relationships with the people in your life, especially your spouse, there are three core aspects to apply.


In order to ever get what you want in life, it’s essential to actually know what it is that you want. The same reigns true when it comes to your love life.

If what you want is a happy, healthy, passionate, and loving marriage, be clear about that. Discuss with your partner what that actually looks like for the two of you. Because, it can look different for each couple.

Modeling a couple that appears to be happy & healthy is great. Adapting what works for them, so that it’s a proper fit for the two of you is even better. When times become challenging, go back to the Vision you both created for your union.


When you chose to enter a marriage, you are not only pledging to commit your life to your partner. You are pledging to remain committed to the commitment of marriage.

In a day and time when few people actually ever commit to ANYTHING, the concept of being committed to a commitment can seem very novel.

However, when you know that the foundation you’ve built your relationship on is solid, you can withstand the storms and tests of life with Grace. And come out on the other side even stronger and more in love.


“Communicate, Communicate, Communicate!” It’s almost become a cliché; however, honest and respectful conversation between partners is truly one of the time-tested “Secrets” of a lasting relationship.

Communication comes in several forms. It’s not always verbal. Gary Chapman has identified 5 Love Languages, which he describes in his book which holds the same title.

It’s essential that you learn the Love Language of your spouse, and then make sure to let it guide you as you express your appreciation and adoration.

When you reinforce the foundation of your marriage with effective communication, it further solidifies your bond, and makes your partner truly feel understood and valued.

And that’s what we ALL want to feel from our most important relationships.

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“True Love is Seeking YOU… Just as You are Seeking True Love!”

But, do you know how to call it into your life with Grace & Dignity?

Or, will you Stay committed to the Habits & Practices that Keep it at Bay, and leave you Frustrated?

The Choice is ALWAYS YOURS.

NEW 2-Pay Option for SSS 2014 Retreat!

I’m excited to announce that a 2-Pay Option is available, to make attending the Smart, SEXY & Single Women’s Retreat even MORE convenient for you! Flyer

This limited time, Payment Plan applies to both the General Admission tickets and the VIP tickets. 🙂

But, don’t wait to take advantage of it.

Because, the 2-Pay goes away at Midnight on Sunday evening, Oct. 12, 2014.

BTW, I’m also glad to share with you the NEW Flyer for the Retreat!

I LOVE helping women to improve their lives, and experience more LOVE. I hope you’ll choose to join me for this very special event.

It’s so much more than a Women’s Empowerment event, but you WILL come out empowered!

You’ll also learn tips and strategies to help you with your dating, courting, and your overall Love Life.

PLUS, you’ll get all of this and MORE built upon a foundation of transformational personal development.


To learn more about the Smart, SEXY & Single Women’s Retreat, just click here.



Creamy Honey Butter Recipe


FOOD EXPERIMENT: I saw some cream cheese in the fridge that my family was enjoying, and I realized “Hey, I want some cream cheese too.” But, I can’t eat it because of the dairy in it.image

So, I decided to try to create an alternative for myself. I mixed mayo, butter and honey together, and put it on some gluten-free toast. It definitely did NOT taste like cream cheese, but it was tasty.

Note: The Mayo & Butter are gluten-free, dairy-free, soy-free, and vegan! Oh so delish and healthier too!

2 parts Butter
1 part Mayonnaise
2 parts Honey

Combine all ingredients in a small bowl, and whisk with a fork till well blended.


PL 002: Dating, Courting & Hooking Up!


Episode Title: PL 002: Dating, Courting & Hooking Up!PL Podcast Graphic

Show Topic: Courting, Dating and Hooking up


In Today’s episode, I’m going to cover:

  • The difference between Dating, Courting & Hooking Up


  • Which approach is the BEST for you personally


  • The BEST way to begin a new Relationship, whether dating or courting


Which approach is the BEST for you personally?

o   Begin with the end in Mind

o   What is your Goal in your Love Life?

o   What do your Spiritual beliefs have to say about the topic? Many of us don’t even allow this to factor into how we interact with men; then we feel badly when we fall into sexual sin.

o   What would you want for your precious daughter?


Show Notes:

7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey 


TOP 15 Reasons Why You’re STILL Single

(Even though you’re a Phenomenal Woman who Wants LOVE)

15 Reasons You are Single

Single women constantly wonder why “Why am I STILL Single?” And, if you’re having a great day, just enjoying your life, someone else will randomly ask you, “Hey, you’re such a great catch. WHY ARE YOU STILL SINGLE?!?”

It’s enough to shake anyone.

Well, in all the years I’ve worked with Singles as my Coaching Clients, and Webinar or Workshop Participants, I can narrow down the TOP reasons that MOST women are solo, despite wanting to be part of a duo.

Without further ado, Here they are:

  1. You’re DIFFICULT to get along with
  2. You’re TOO Independent
  3. You have TRUST Issues & Refuse to be VULNERABLE
  4. You’re out of PLACE; God told you to GO somewhere or STAY somewhere & you DID NOT
  5. You don’t Like/RESPECT Men
  6. You are SUPERFICIAL &/or Judgmental
  7. You’re TOO Available
  8. You don’t know what you REALLY want from a Man/Relationship
  9. You have unresolved WOUNDS from the past that are holding you hostage
  10. You Don’t BELIEVE you are a Great Catch
  11. You’re wasting your Time/Life with MR. WRONGS
  12. You’ve GIVEN UP on the idea that TRUE LOVE can happen for you
  13. You stay in your HEAD too much, and don’t consult your Heart
  14. You stay in your HEART too much, and don’t consult your Head
  15. It’s not your SEASON to be Married yet
BONUS 1: You don’t want to be Married or in a REAL Relationship; You’re conflicted about what you actually want (See #9)
BONUS 2: You’re TOO Masculine, Not enough Feminine Energy; MOST Straight men want a Feminine woman (No that does NOT mean you need to wear tons of makeup or pink all the time)

Every single one of these challenges CAN be corrected. But, that will NEVER happen unless you take an honest look at yourself and your love life to see which of these applies to YOU.

Often when a relationship ends (ok let’s tell the truth, when you get dumped) you never know the real reason why he ended it. It’s akin to when a person doesn’t get hired for a job after getting to the interview stage.

The interviewer doesn’t want to hurt your feelings (or open themselves up to a potential lawsuit) so they don’t give you the feedback that could help you improve and do better on your next interview.

Well that happens in personal relationships too. That’s why I’m providing you with this list.

If you don’t let yourself get defensive, and say, “That’s not ME!,” this information could be invaluable for you.

If on the other hand, you choose to dismiss it without an honest introspection, you’ll likely still be wondering the same question next year this time.

What will you choose?

How The Devastating Grip of Depression WILL Impact YOU

In the wake of the loss of Robin Williams, among countless others, due to the agony of depression, I knew that I must shine a light on this very sad, and often very lonely illness. Any robin-williams-beachnegative health condition can impact your relationships. I believe mental health challenges have the biggest potential to do so, because many people are still so uninformed about the vast ramifications they can have, both on the person suffering from the condition as well as on those around them. This article is my attempt to remove the veil of shame and shine the light of knowledge to help minimize unnecessary suffering.


Depression and Anxiety Disorders are serious medical illnesses that impact the lives and livelihoods of over 40 million U.S. residents. That means over 18% of the American population has been diagnosed with one or both of these devastating conditions. These numbers don’t even factor in the family, friends and colleagues of those who are diagnosed, and the negative impact these diseases have on the loved ones of those who are living with them.

An overwhelming feeling of sadness, hopelessness, and inadequacy that is typically felt over a period of time are the hallmarks of Depression.

Anxiety Disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., according to They develop from a complex set of risk factors, including genetics, brain chemistry, personality & life events.

We all feel sad & blue, at times. It’s a normal emotion just like happiness and frustration. The problem comes when it’s not just a passing feeling of unhappiness. That’s when it can literally destroy parts of your life, including your job/school performance, marriage, parent-child dynamics, etc.

So, How Do You Know If You Or A Loved One May Be Suffering From Depression?

For major depression, you may experience a sad or depressed mood, or an inability to feel pleasure, plus five or more of the following symptoms, for at least a two-week period

  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness, or hopelessness
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in usual activities, including sex
  • Difficulty concentrating and complaints of poor memory
  • Insomnia or oversleeping
  • Appetite changes, which may include weight gain or loss
  • Fatigue, lack of energy
  • Thoughts of suicide or death
  • Slow speech; slow movements


If you notice the symptoms listed above, it’s time to see a Qualified health care provider. Just as you wouldn’t go to see your Clergy first if you went into Labor, or to fix your Heart Attack symptoms, you should treat conditions of the brain, i.e. Mental Health with the same level of diligence and concern. Go seek professional medical help, if you’re experiencing these symptoms, or any others that alarm you.

How Do We Treat Depression?

There are a number of approaches that can be effective in treating depression. Here are just a few:

  • Talk Therapy
  • Medication
  • Alternative Treatments (Herbs, Acupuncture, Exercise)


I trust that this article will serve to inform and encourage you about the realities of battling depression or any other mental health challenge. You are certainly NOT alone, and there should be NO stigma attached with getting professional help for any health condition you may face. With that said, prayer and faith do have their place in healing and treatment of any condition. I always add them to any other form of medical treatment I pursue.


Disclaimer: I am NOT a Physician or Clinical Mental Health Provider. This article is for informational purposes only.