5 Relationship Obstacles That Leave Smart Single Women Stuck Feeling Lonely & Frustrated

When it comes to attracting more love into their lives, most women expect to run before they walk. Specifically, they want to learHurdlen the tips and strategies for attracting Mr. Right, when they haven’t eliminated the relationship saboteurs that plague them, first. I liken this to mopping before you sweep. If you’ve ever done this, you know that instead of saving time, all you do is end up with nasty floors thus creating more work for yourself.

Here Are 5 Obstacles That Will Stand In Your Way & How To Address Them:


Your “V” Has Been Used & Abused

That’s right; I’m talking about your Vulnerability! (What did you think I meant? 🙂 ) When we don’t exercise discretion about who we trust and allow to stay in our life, our kindness & vulnerability can be abused. Holding on to the fear of being hurt again is a major block to welcoming in new Love.

Tip: Fortify your willingness to be vulnerable, with people who’ve proven to you over time that they are worthy of your trust. Forgive those who’ve done you wrong, and release the hurt & anger.


Place Holders

Using men (and allowing them to use you) as a fill in for genuine intimacy, creates an obstacle for Phenomenal Love. This includes dating or being involved with a man that you don’t actually like & respect, just because you like what he can do for you.

Tip: Become what I call “Sincerely Single.” This means that you have completely ended any “lingering” relationships and are ready & available for Mr. Right to come into your life.


Cray-Cray Patterns & Cycles

Are you addicted to Drama, Bad Boys, Chaos, etc? Perhaps you’ve gotten used to being alone, and thus start treating new men like unwelcomed intruders. Do you keep chasing men who are unavailable or who won’t commit to you? These are just some of the common patterns I see when working with previous Clients.

Tip: I highly recommend a Dating Detox to help you to break unproductive patterns. Then, Recalibrate to begin new, more productive patterns.


Relationship Artifacts

Keeping remnants of past relationships around you, ensures that you stay surrounded by the stagnant energy of a failed relationship. It also serves as a reminder of your ex’s, so you’re focusing on him/them rather than focusing on welcoming the man that God has chosen for you, into your life.

Tip: Tap into the Law of Flow by releasing the old & counterproductive to make space for the fresh & new in your life.



You’ve done people wrong in the past, and now your chickens have come home to roost. Being selfish, manipulative and deceitful all fall under this obstacle to quality relationships.

Tip: Use the Law of Cause & Effect to Do More Good to others and for others. Build up Karma that works for you rather than against you.

These tips are straight from Step 1, “Ditch Relationship Obstacles,” in my SoulMate Attraction Factor Curriculum. To learn the remaining 4 steps and join the upcoming SoulMate Attraction Factor™ 30 Day Coaching Club, where I’ll be teaching and coaching you through each step, head over to www.SoulMateAttractionFactor.com. The Club is now available at the Early Bird Rate (That’s a 50% savings!). Classes start on March just in time for 25th Spring!


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“True Love is Seeking YOU… Just as You are Seeking True Love!”

But, do you know how to call it into your life with Grace & Dignity?

Or, will you Stay committed to the Habits & Practices that Keep it at Bay, and leave you Frustrated?

The Choice is ALWAYS YOURS.

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Wende Sanders, MS, CC is a Reinvention Strategist, Award-Winning Speaker, Coach, Author and the owner of a premier personal & professional development company for women ready to up level themselves through reinvention. She's a Certified Life, Career and Relationship Coach that enjoys teaching and working with Clients to transform their lives for the better.

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