You’ve lost your muchness-Alice in Wonderland

“You’re not the same as you were before. You were much more muchier; you’ve lost your muchness.” –Mad Hatter

“My muchness?” – Alice

“In there (your heart/core), something is missing.” –Mad Hatter

I recently saw (twice) Alice in Wonderland directed by Tim Burton; I can’t believe how much I loved it. It was such a powerful metaphor for life. In my opinion, the dialogue above was one of the most powerful moments of the movie. And, based on Alice’s continual reference from that point forward to possessing her “muchness,” it was powerful to her as well. Many of us have found ourselves involved in events and circumstances that caused us to lose our muchness. Survivors of any type of abuse, molestation, rape, harassment, stalking, disease, cancer, job loss, etc are very likely to experience this as a result of their negative experiences. I’m very grateful to know for a fact that we can regain our muchness, once we decide that we deserve to reclaim it!

As with most aspects of personal development, it begins with making a decision. I hope that today you decide that you deserve to reclaim your God-given right to restore your muchness. If you still have some of it, but it seems to be on life support, then decide to resuscitate your muchness. If you are one of the phenomenal women that has successfully reconnected with and revived your muchness, please look around and help another woman that is currently where you have been. I promise, you won’t need to look far to find one.

Just as Alice does in the movie, we all have a Jabberwocky (scary dragon) that only we can slay. And we all have access to the “sword” we need to slay that dragon. The question I ask of myself and encourage you to ask yourself is “Am I willing to have faith in God and myself, face my fears (despite how real/pressing/pee-in-your-pants-scary they may be) and take the action to retrieve the sword and slay the foe?” For me the answer is “Absolutely! Yes!” I will admit that there was a PROCESS for me to get to that YES. But, I did it, by God’s grace and I believe you can too. If you decide, to reclaim your muchness and be much muchier once again!

About the Author:

Wende Sanders, MS, CC is an Award-Winning Speaker, Relationship Coach, Author and the owner of a premier personal development company for success-minded women. She's a Certified Life and Relationship Coach that enjoys working with Clients to transform the quality of relationships they attract, so they can experience the deep LOVE and more fulfilling lives they want. Her relationship expertise and insight have helped thousands of women to improve their lives and their relationships while honoring their faith and values.


  1. Rosanti  May 3, 2013

    I have also been slowly lsniog my muchness (on a side note, Johnny Depp is an awesome Mad Hatter). When I went to college I sorta got stuck in that rut. I dated the same girl until just recently that would constantly dump me and I’d always go back to her. She’d always treat me like crap. I guess I was really just trying to hold onto something that had been gone for a long time.In high school I had friends and we’d go on ridiculous adventures together. I enjoyed the thrill of this so much. We still talk about doing these things all the time, but when we get together all we do is sit around. I feel like I’ve lost my creativity (or muchness if you will). I have started to miss them so badly that I can hardly imagine living the rest of my life without them. I’m a senior in college right now and I enjoy it and I’m happy, but it’s an empty happiness. I’m on the cross country and track teams here. Running has become like a business and it’s only enjoyable when I do well, not just going on a run with friends like in high school. While in high school the team and I were like family, but anymore my college teammates seem distant. I have one really close friend here and we hang out all the time, but it’s not really exhilarating like it used to be. Don’t get me wrong, he’s one of my best friends, it just feels like something is missing. I don’t want to lose everything I had and felt as a teenager.Sorry I don’t have a solution to your muchness problem, I just figured it’s nice to know you’re not the only one out there. But if you find a way to get your muchness back I would love to hear it.

  2. Calen  June 6, 2014

    I ran across your blog this morning while looking up a definition for muchness. A friend has suggested to me that I fear really tackling my blog because people will think I’m too much, though I wasn’t sure what that meant. She’s right. I was surprised and pleased to find your comments on it.

    • Wende  June 19, 2014

      Hi Calen, I’m so glad you found my site. It blesses me to know that you found what you were seeking in this Post! Rock on and OWN your Muchness!



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