What Are You Attracting?

It seems like an odd question at first, but it’s certainly one that begs to be asked and answered. In our younger years, we were frequently admonished to be careful about who we picked as friends, the type of music to which we listened and what we watched on TV. These pearls of wisdom may have sounded like this: “Birds of a feather flock together. Like attracts like. As a man thinkith, so shall he be.” Those warnings were usually made by well intentioned adults who wanted to make sure that we surrounded ourselves with primarily positive and uplifting influences.

What are You Attracting

These time-worn maxims are equally relevant to both the young and the young at heart. However, for many of us, once we become adults we start to think that we are above being influenced. We think that we can associate with unsavory people, listen to belittling music or watch sexually explicit and other disturbing images on TV, and that they no longer have any impact on us. But, the reality is that we are always attracting something, either positive or negative into our lives. The primary factor that determines whether what we attract is positive or negative is our thoughts, which lead to our beliefs. There is so much information available about The Law of Attraction and I encourage you to research it.

What we focus on expands

That means that if we continue to surround ourselves with people, things and concepts that represent everything we don’t want to be, do or have, then we will continue to attract those undesirable experiences into our lives. Another pattern that I see frequently is people talking constantly about what they don’t want or don’t have. For example, women talking about how all “the good one’s” are taken, or that there are no good men left.

So what’s a gal to do? After all we do have needs, and we deserve to have them met. The fact is that from time to time we will face undesirable circumstances in our lives, but how we handle them will determine the frequency and duration of these events. Sometimes a negative experience is a test. And, in God’s infinite mercy He allows us to continue to retake our tests until we pass them. When you stop focusing on what you don’t have and start appreciating what you do have in your situation, your own thoughts, beliefs, and subsequently your behavior can begin to change. These changes can then start to attract exactly the thing you long for.

Give It A Try

You certainly don’t have to take my word on this matter. You can test it out for yourself. Think about a very negative person you know; the type of person that can find the negative in everything. If it was a clear sunny day she would complain about needing to wear sunglasses, if she won $20 Million she would complain about the taxes. Now, think about the type of events that seem to always take place in her life. Does she always seem to have some new tragedy or unfortunate occurrence happening, that she can’t wait to tell you all about? Well, this is not a surprise to anyone that understands the Law of Attraction. This type of person continues to attract drama into his or her life because s/he focuses and meditates on drama. With that said, I ask you again: “What are you attracting?”

I challenge you to incorporate a positive practice into your life that will help you to counter the negativity that may surround you. Your positive practice may involve increasing the frequency or quality of your prayers, writing positive affirmations and reading them each day or merely turning off the news and “talking heads” TV shows. You can easily adopt a variety of proactive patterns that will help you ensure that what you are attracting is indeed what you want for yourself.

Love & Romance

If you want to attract a better Love Life, you’ll want to join me for the Smart, S.E.X.Y & Single Women’s Retreat on Saturday August 17, 2013. Check out the Retreat Information page to get the dets and see if it’s right for you! Frequently, we need help recognizing the patterns, and pitfalls we endure on our quest for true love. That’s EXACTLY what you’ll receive at the Retreat.


About the Author:

Wende Sanders, MS, CC is an Award-Winning Speaker, Relationship Coach, Author and the owner of a premier personal development company for success-minded women. She's a Certified Life and Relationship Coach that enjoys working with Clients to transform the quality of relationships they attract, so they can experience the deep LOVE and more fulfilling lives they want. Her relationship expertise and insight have helped thousands of women to improve their lives and their relationships while honoring their faith and values.

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