I believe that success leaves clues. With that in mind, I study as many people as possible that have attained the type of “whole life’” success to which I aspire. That’s why I’m including the Celebrity Spotlight Feature in Phenomenal Life and Career Newsletter. It’s my extreme honor to feature our country’s First Lady as the first celebrity to be profiled.
Over the last several years I’ve had the pleasure of learning about the Phenomenal Woman that is First Lady Michelle Obama. During that time, I’ve adopted her as one of my mentors and role models. I aspire to be as gracious, stylish and confident as she appears to be.
In my opinion, Mrs. Obama is living proof that yes we can have it all, love, family, career, happiness and fulfillment if we are willing to work at it. Here are just 3 of the secrets to success I’ve learned from her:
1. Choose your priorities and let them shape your life.
“And in my own life, in my own small way, I’ve tried to give back to this country that has given me so much. That’s why I left a job at a law firm for a career in public service, working to empower young people to volunteer in their communities. Because I believe that each of us–no matter what our age or background or walk of life–each of us has something to contribute to the life of this nation.”
2. Being classy and intelligent are always fashionable and never go out of style.
“One of the lessons that I grew up with was to always stay true to yourself and never let what somebody else says distract you from your goals. And so when I hear about negative and false attacks, I really don’t invest any energy in them, because I know who I am.”
3. Self-care is not selfish, it’s smart; because, it refuels you so you can continue to give to others.
“I have freed myself to put me on the priority list and say, yes, I can make choices that make me happy, and it will ripple and benefit my kids, my husband, and my physical health. That’s hard for women to own; we’re not taught to do that. It’s a lesson that I want to teach my girls so they don’t wait for their “aha” moment until they’re in their 30s like I was (laughs). Maybe they can experience it a little earlier.”
My challenge to you is to take an assessment of your own life and career choices. Do they truly reflect who you are and your current priorities? Or are they more like some random mix of outcomes created by default? Let’s take a cue from Mrs. Obama, and be more intentional about how we design our lives. Many women spend more time designing their outfits than they do on designing their lives. Please don’t be one of them.Share