Love Yourself!

One of the primary concerns on the mind of today’s working woman is “How can I get it all done?” Whether or not that should even be the goal is worthy of its own conversation. But for most of us, in our desire to be it all, do it all & have it all, we are disregarding a very important element. That’s right, the matter of real love.

Whether you love your family is certainly not the question. Of course you do! But, do they always feel it? There is a definite difference between knowing that you’re loved and feeling that you’re loved. This difference is what drains the passion out of marriages and transforms them into business arrangements. This difference is one of the reasons kids and parents become so distant. This difference is one reason you neglect your own physical and mental health when you know better. Frequently, the missing ingredient is a real feeling of love. In the midst of our busy schedules sometimes we forget to put “relate to my husband in HIS love language” on our to-do lists. Or, to schedule time to discover how our children prefer to be loved, and then do it.

So the question is what’s love got to do with it? The answer, everything. When you don’t love your job, your body, your hair, your home, your life or yourself, it shows up in other areas of your life and in your relationships. As much as you may believe you’re doing a great job of hiding it, please know that it will usually catch up with you. I don’t want to scare you, but I do want to wake you up.

So, what’s the solution? There are many possible approaches to this dilemma of not enough love being demonstrated or received. I really like the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. In it, you’ll discover which of the following is the primary language of your loved ones and yourself.

1. Words of Affirmation
2. Quality Time
3. Receiving Gifts
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch

Once you understand their language as well as your own, you can be much more effective in developing and demonstrating the depth & breadth of your love.

Challenge-I challenge you to discover your primary love language and then gift yourself with an outward expression of love using it. For example, if it’s physical touch schedule yourself a massage. If it’s acts of service, hire a maid or get your car detailed. If it’s receiving gifts, send yourself flowers with a simple note that says “I Love You!” These may seem silly to you at first, but when you experience how great if feels, you’ll be more likely to happily relate to your children, husband, family and friends in their own languages.

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Yadkin Riverkeeper event featuring Erin Brockovich

This summer, I’ve had the pleasure to attend various events featuring women and men that are making a

Yadkin Riverkeeper event featuring Erin Brockovich

difference by using their talent and passion to make a contribution. First, I attended the Yadkin Riverkeeper event featuring Erin Brockovich. Mayor Allen Joines of Winston-Salem was one of the speakers at this event held on the Wake Forest University Campus, June 2010. Erin was a bold, outspoken and captivating presence, and I’m so glad to have seen her in person.

Yadkin Riverkeeper event featuring Erin Brockovich

Mayor Allen Joines at the Yadkin Riverkeeper event featuring Erin Brockovich

I am NOT perfect; I can’t be and won’t be perfect.

I AM special; I am loving and lovable.

I am ONLY one, but I am one.

I am God’s UNIQUE creation.

I CAN make a difference.

I AM Phenomenal!

We all have times in our lives when things are very difficult and disheartening. During those times, please, please don’t quit. I hope you find some encouragement in viewing this video. I’ve also added the whole poem below the video. Enjoy!

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,

When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,

When the funds are low and the debts are high,

And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,

When care is pressing you down a bit,

Rest, if you must, but don’t you quit.

Life is queer with its twists and turns,

As every one of us sometimes learns,

And many a failure turns about,

When he might have won had he stuck it out;

Don’t give up though the pace seems slow–

You may succeed with another blow.

Often the goal is nearer than,

It seems to a faint and faltering man,

Often the struggler has given up,

When he might have captured the victor’s cup,

And he learned too late when the night slipped down,

How close he was to the golden crown.

Success is failure turned inside out–

The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,

And you never can tell how close you are,

It may be near when it seems so far,

So stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit–

It’s when things seem worst that you must not quit.

- Author unknown

“Don’t ever let somebody tell you, you can’t do something. Not even me.”-Will Smith playing Chris Gardner in The Pursuit of Happyness

This movie is in my DVD collection. Chris’ story is a wonderful example of how talent, determination, perseverance and grace can pay off. This is one of the most powerful moments in the movie. It’s also a wonderful example to show the world that many African-American men are loving, commited and present fathers.

I love the song “I hope you dance!” Personally, I spent WAY TOO MANY YEARS sitting on the sidelines and holding up the wall at the party of life. I’m so grateful that now I’m “dancing” literally and figuratively; I’m enjoying living a Phenomenal Lifestyle! I’d love to pass on a piece of that to you too. I hope you enjoy this video!

It’s wonderful to have someone in your life who believes in you and tells you that he/she does. If you don’t have someone like that in your life to do that for you, BE that person for yourself. Or, you can give me a call! If you are a parent, please make sure your children grow up knowing that you believe in them. Don’t make the mistake of ASSuming that they know. TELL THEM, repeatedly!

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